What is the secret to spiritual intelligence, conscious leadership and self-mastery?

Self-love is a topic many of us seek to avoid – yet it has a profound impact on our happiness, effectiveness and spiritual growth as human beings. What is less known, is how self-love influences leadership abilities. Drawing on both her professional experience and award-winning published MBA research into the area of self-love and leadership, Nerisha explores how self-love impacts our ability to lead both ourselves and others successfully, sharing inspiring insights from interviews with leaders and leadership experts.

The book highlights the critical role that self-love can play in overall well-being and collective human flourishing, beyond narrow self-interest. The relevance to leadership encompasses not just corporate executives, but academics, parents, teachers, coaches, community leaders, political leaders, spiritual leaders, and just about anybody who chooses to lead both themselves and others to greater levels of growth and purpose.

Self Love

“In a spiritual sense of non-duality consciousness, true Self-Love is when there is no self to love. Because Self and Love become One”  -the author

Book launch hosted by the African Womens’ Chartered Accountants Association (AWCA) at Unilever – 2016

The book explores:

  • The meaning of self-love in its highest spiritual expression. drawing on ancient Eastern philosophy and psychology
  • How self-love does not equate to narcissism and selfishness
  • How our false self identifications block our authentic Self
  • The Five Constructs of Self-Love
  • The impact of self-love on leadership attributes, such as authenticity and decision-making
  • Practical coaching techniques on cultivating healthy levels of self-love

The book was released in April 2016 at a book launch hosted by AWCA. Already in its fourth print run since publication, the book continues to sell copies worldwide. Self-love is a pervasive human conundrum. In 2012, Nerisha conducted the first research into the meaning and impact of self-love and leadership, as part of her MBA. The research was peer-reviewed journal published, and gave rise to her first book. The book was included in the recommended reading list to doctoral psychiatry candidates at Stellenbosch University (2018) and is prescribed on various coaching training programmes. It was the first academic research into self-love, and its link to leadership impact, in the world, making her one of the recognized global experts in this topic. She continues to receive many requests to speak and train on the topic, a decade after publication, including prestigious organisations such as YPO. Learn how self-love, in its higher expression, impacts our ability to lead both ourselves and others successfully, with inspiring insights from interviews with leaders and leadership experts.


“Thank you for this beautiful gift, Nerisha. Once I got started, it was really difficult to stop. There was so much that resonated with the journey that I find myself on as a leader – as a human. This piece of work should be expanded and shared with people all around the world. I think that so many could benefit from reading your book. Because once they do, they will be propelled to seek, explore, cultivate and reignite their self-love.”

Kumeshnee West, Director Executive Education at UCT Graduate School of Business

“I have just read your book on self-love, which was given to me as a gift by our private banker at Nedbank, and I want to congratulate you on a most fascinating read. Your book is full of wise understandings of higher-order thinking, and I love the way you have blended the many paths of spiritual wisdom into one. This sort of thinking is brave and challenging without being the usual motivational hogwash that one tends to see in bookshops. Well done.”

Dr Devi Rajab, Psychologist, Author and Journalist

“My dear Nerisha, thank you for a reading treat! I couldn’t wait to start it when I found it safely on my desk in Cape Town… and then I couldn’t stop until I finished it! My blue highlighter ran out of ink before I got halfway… there was so much value to underline! You have written a fine book, Nerisha. It is comprehensive, thorough and unpretentious. It is up to date, inspiring and uplifting. It made me think, meditate and pray. It is authentic, real and just, as I have learnt you to be. I will read it again! And probably again! Thank you and my warmest congratulations. It deserves great success!”

Colin Hall, Former CEO at Wooltru & SAB, and Founder of Learning to Lead